My boy is not the most hardworking boy and I think he probably doesn’t think it’s a good thing that his mummy is working in his school..
I, however, am glad that I have the privilege to monitor him easily and I’m more able to see things from the perspective of a parent. I’ve also found out some interesting observation about my boy… Things that I would not know if he was in another school..
First of all, he can be very blur.. I’m not sure if he’s blur or he can’t be bothered.. He has not been noting down his Chinese homework in the pupil’s handbook and I suspect it’s because it takes more effort to write in Chinese than in English.. He didn’t even tell me he needed to bring his 习字 book until I received an SMS from his Chinese teacher! Then he brought back his classmates Math Coursebook by mistake and the following week, he brought the same classmate’s spelling book back! I’m glad hubby joined the parents’ whatsapp chat group so we could check with the other parents about his homework..
Secondly, he doesn’t know the concept of money and change.. Whenever I ask him how much he spent for recess, he would not be able to explain to me.. He’d tell me he spent $2 and when I probed further, he’d say the stall holder returned him $1+.. Then, after I explained to him that he shouldn’t spend unnecessarily on toys as he would not have enough for food, he simply requested for more pocket money! I think he thinks money falls from the sky!
Thirdly, he tells lies.. Despite reminding him to spend his money wisely, he had been buying pizzas, prata and even noodle snacks instead of rice or noodles during recess.. I tried to check on him when possible to find out what he bought for recess.. Then when I saw him during recess on Thursday, he told me had rice for recess.. But when he got home, I found out that he didn’t spend a single cent that day! He even had the cheek to ask for more pocket money! I was furious! I gave him a dressing down and didn’t give him any pocket money on Friday and just packed biscuits for him..
Finally, he is not attentive in class and he does not put in effort in his work.. I usually try to check his class whiteboard for his homework in case he didn’t write it down.. So on Friday, I happened to see his Chinese teacher on my way to his classroom and Mdm Ong showed me a Chinese worksheet that he had done.. She said he did it haphazardly and didn’t even bother to draw lines with a ruler! I apologized and thanked her for the feedback.. Then I asked her for another piece of the worksheet so I could get my dear son to redo it at home..
My dear son got an earful from me and I even told my man about it.. The daddy threw away 2 of his beloved toys as a punishment and warned him to put in more effort in his schoolwork and not to lie again.. After that, he asked me to be the good parent and pick up the toys.. I refused as I know my son would not learn his lesson if he his toys were to appear a few days after they had been thrown away.. He needs to learn his lesson!
We’ll try to keep our words or he would not learn.. It’s not easy for him and for me that we’re in the same school.. He has someone monitoring him every day while I have to monitor him closely so he won’t ’embarrass’ me with his inappropriate behaviour and attitude in class.. But I guess we both have to compromise to be happier.. For him, maybe he will need to think twice before he misbehaves as his mummy will find out easily.. On my part, I need to give him some space or maybe encourage him instead of nagging at him when he does something wrong..
Sigh, it’s not easy but I hope we’ll soon be able to reach a point where we can keep each other happy.. I don’t want to be breathing down his neck every day and I’m sure he doesn’t want to hear my nagging every day..
All the best to us!